TEN TIPS FOR PARENTING AN ONLY CHILD
It helps for parents to keep in mind three dynamics that make the single child family unique.
First, the only child is first and last child in one, the ONLY CHANCE at parenting the parents will get, so they want to do it well and right.
Second, the only child gets ALL the social, emotional, and material parenting resources that the parents have to give.
And third, the single or only child has UNRIVALLED access to parents and everything they provide.
Combined, all three dynamics contribute to many strengths in the only child, but also create some vulnerabilities (as I suggest in THE FUTURE OF YOUR ONLY CHILD.) So here are some tips parents may want to consider.
RELAX. Pressure yourselves to be perfect parents and your one and only, to please you, will pressure her self to be a perfect child, so treat reasonable effort as good enough.
FORGIVE. Treat your own failings, failures, and mistakes with good humor and acceptance and your one and only can learn to laugh at herself, not take herself too seriously, and lighten up her sense of responsibility.
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